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Wedding gift-giving etiquette
My friend is getting married on Saturday. I went to her bridal shower a few weeks ago and got her a few gifts from her registry. Do I still have to bring another gift to the wedding, or should that be enough? I was thinking about writing the couple a check or something, but I don't know if it would be necessary since I got her a gift at the shower.
Anyone have any ideas on what I should do?
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In my cases i always just wrote a check for the wedding. i think that's what most people do, they usually give a gift at the wedding only if they didn't attend the bridal shower
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In our area, a gift is usually given at the bridal shower and then a check at the wedding.
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I've always gave a gift at both. Usually a personal gift at the bridal shower and a joint gift at the wedding.
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a check is fine if a gift is given at the shower. Italian weddings that is the norm. in chinese weddings also.
but, at the housewarming, its best to give a gift both will use or as ive seen it best, 2 separate gifts (of lesser monetary value, but appropriate for home usage) for him and her. example (i always forget if its E.G. or I.E.,,,lol) a small kitchen appliance for her and garage stuff for him.
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Do you get all of that stuff back if the couple splits within a year?
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IMO, a wedding invitation carries with it an obligation to send a gift, even if you cannot attend the actual wedding.
And a shower gift does not satisfy your wedding gift requirement. You have to give both, unless the bride says otherwise. |
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Huh. See I'm the exact opposite. I always figured wedding gifts were for those not invited to the shower. I would go with a nice card and a thoughtful note for the wedding if I gave a gift at the shower. My best friend is getting married in Sept. I went to her shower and got a gift off the registry and I'm in her wedding party. So that would be a shower gift, the cost of the dress, cost of various wedding dinners etc, AND a wedding gift? I've known this girl since before third grade but I'm not made out of money. She'll get a nice card or maybe a nice framed picture of them for the actual wedding gift.
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wedding shower=her
bachelor party=drunken orgy wedding=gift/cash housewarning=the last thing you will ever get from me
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Holy cow.
I'm getting married this summer, and if all this is true I'm really gonna clean up! Dan |
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Personally with what you spend on a wedding you could buy all the crap you get and just throw a party. That's what we did.
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Thanks everyone! Looks like a check it is.
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Ya took the words right outta my fingers ... If you're lucky she'll let you borrow something... Christy...
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Passing out invites with any intention of getting gifts is no better than looting. Just my 2 cents.
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i look damn good in it too, i'll have you know- Nina... Look at all those forced smiles. They probably all hate each other!- Debi... She can kick all their butts and can write her name in the snow in cursive!- CRP... so...what are you wearing...? panties...? lace panties...? that's what I'm wearing - ScubaDave and the telemarketer... Life can be short, just like me... Live it to the fullest!!! Family is always there for you NO matter what, just like a "true friend" would be... A cheat is a cheat, and are always busted... |
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