Mean Girls

[Sting]

Oh God- what a movie. I don't know about you older folks, but I'm a 16 year old guy, and I love this movie. I'm already into movies, but I sincerely love this movie, not only is it great- I can directly relate to it. Everyone knows there's "that group" at every high school, and we definitely have one at my school too. My group can get so wrapped up into the drama, but it's fun for the most part. I mean, in a way it's cool to know when you walk down the hallways everyone knows who you are and stuff about you...but some people take it too far.

Recently though, me and my group of friends have gone through major struggles. I guess people look at us from the outside as the perfect happy group of friends who dress good, look good, do everything together and have so much fun but on the inside, there's a lot of bitterness and petty garbage. The eight of us got to the point where we thought we were so cool we coudn't even be ourselves anymore. We were so preoccupied with upholding an image we couldn't let our guards down to anyone for fear of ridicule, even with eachother. It was like a pecking order, and as long as you weren't on the bottom you were ok; if you were at the bottom, you were literally ripped apart by the rest of the group. It was as if we needed to do something to know at least we weren't at "the bottom," and picking on eachother helped ensure your position.

Long story short (huge crazy drama) I was falsely blamed for something and basically ousted from the group. Subjected to the worst literal torture you could imagine (social troture) they literally tried to ruin my life for a while. At this point, it was not such a good thing that everyone knew about my personal business. it all didn't seem so fun anymore. After spending 2 years of my life devoted to these 8 people (and completely excluding myself to them and being a complete jerk to everyone else on the face of the planet) there was nothing left for me. No where to go.

Even a longer story made short, truths came out and wounds were healed, but nothing will ever be the same. Now I'm at the bottom, and in a way I'm now looking in from the outside. I still sit with them at lunch and hang out with them, but too many things have changed, and I get so hurt whenever I'm with them for the things they say. I don't show it though, you can't. But now I realize how unhappy I was. I mean, if I ever was happy it was only on the weekends when I couldn't remember what I had done the night before anyway, and that's no life, especially at 16. Sure, I had friends, an "image" and fun, but it wasn't me. I had molded into someone I wasn't at heart. Now that I see them- I feel so bad for them. I know they have so much potential, they just don't have motivation. They are so unhappy, and bitter, and you can blatently tell, just by looking at them. They all hide behind their perfect little image. That's why I've come to my conclusion. As a friend, I can't give up on them. I've seen them being true to themselves, and they are such good people. I can't give up on them. If I do- who else will be there to believe in them? To see them through to the end? I know they are so much better than this, and I can't see my best friends do this to themselves. It really hurts, but I know it's the right, and mature thing to do. Sure, I can still be their friends, but I have to guard myself for falling into the trap again, and at the same time, try and pull them out. and through all this, I've become such a happier person. I used to think i was the one with the problem, why would they be so cruel to me? What did I do wrong? Nothing. Things happen in life that you can't control, yet you still ahave to press. All I can hope for is that in the end it will all be worth it.


...WOW! I didn't expect to share that story or go into a deep sentimental message- lol, but oh well, I hope you get the jist. The point is that no matter who you are, the image those kids have who walk down the hallway and look so happy and perfect is so falsely given. Trust me, I've been there with experience. You have to find a happy medium. You can be popular and well-liked without being a complete jackass. You should be known for how you've helped people, and what you've done for them, not be notoriously known for who you've done or what you've done to people. And that's why I believe Mean Girls is a great movie and I really enjoy it. It really does show the extremes of these types of high school situations. It nearly exactly mirrors the patterns I've sene at my own school, and it conveys a great message. Calling someone fat doesn't make you skinnier. Calling someone dumb doesn't make you smarter. So many young kids loose sight of this these days, including myself. So, have you seen the movie? If you havent, check it out. Not only is it hilarious- it also has a great message.

How about you? Got any fun high school stories or insight?

[bulldog12]

It was better than watching re-runs. Thats about all I can say about it.

[beerguy]

I know it's hard to believe but in a few years you'll probably give very little thought to what happened in high school. It seems life shattering now, but it's just a small piece in the overall puzzle.

Cheers

[bulldog12]

Originally posted by beerguy
I know it's hard to believe but in a few years you'll probably give very little thought to what happened in high school. It seems life shattering now, but it's just a small piece in the overall puzzle.

Cheers

Yeah, just enjoy it while it lasts.

[Bungle]

Back when I was popular in high school.... Uhh, wait no I wasn't.
lol, high school...... Phew, how corny that was. When ya get to college none of that "in-crowd" bologna means anything to anyone.
Sometimes later in life you hear people talking about "their in crowd" experience they were in. Anyone involved in the conversation suddenly loses interest when someone brags about their leading the popularity contest... I mean High School.

Movie was cool though, I'll watch it again. Good comedy in my opinion.

[mo]

My 11 year old loved it.

[CrystalAZ]

The only people who care about high school after it is over are on the ends of the spectrums...

They either were so popular and wonderful in HS that they hold onto that as their crowning achievement in life (which is really sad)...

Or, they were picked on to the point where they continue to have no self-esteem in life after HS, basically ruining any opportunities for greatness.

If you aren't on one of these ends, you'll remember some funny stories, but other than that, you won't even think about school much. The "drama" that is so important now will be nothing.

Just focus on doing the best you can in school academically, and hang out with people who have proven they care about you and not just an image, and don't even let the other losers have any power over you.

Crystal

[loyalty]

i prefer a teen movie i can relate to, such as "girl next door". pornstars. its like i'm there again...

[Cutiewitbooty]

I loved The Girl Next Door lol, I haven't seen Mean Girls yet but I think I'll buy it, tomarrow, well um today........kinda. It's 2:30 am here so yeah i guess it would be today. I like the HS teen movies alot their funny, i loved Hot Chicks too. I'm had 2 kids by the time I was 18 so maybe i'm just wishing i didn't miss out on my "teen" years, loll. But I'm 20 and I still got college, so it's all good hehehe

[oz]

I didn't have any of this kind of problem in high school. I wrestle in high school. So my only problems were strugling to make weight starving yourself and pigging out after the weight in.
And my only worry was making it to State.
What an idiot I was but that was fun. The whole high school experience was really fun. Knowing what I know now, sometimes I wish I could go back and do it over again. Asking girls out..., going to the dances..., doing crazy idiotic things.... Image to uphold ? hehe. We had no image! The was the last thing I thought of.

You guys probably never heard of them but we had Tower of Power and Brothers Johnson came to our high school dances.
That was really cool. Well back then it was. hehe.

As for watching Mean Girls. I dunno. I get bored watching those kind of movies. Although, recently I saw "Bend it like Bekhem" I kinda liked it.

[Jamesurq]

Yeah - Mean Girls, what an original theme! They've never done a story about highschool popular crowd kids actually not being as emotionally secure as everyone thought!

[dendronepthya]

I haven't seen the movie, but from everything I've heard, it is supposed to be good. I'll give it a chance on video.

[Sting]

LOL, sorry to bog you down with worthless high school drama, I thought this would attract more of the young reefers crowd. But really, I know it won't mean squat in 2 years...it's just what's going on in my life right now, it's inescapable- lol. I am looking forward to college so much though- I can't wait!!!!!!!!!! I just want to get away and be able to do my own thing without my parenst shoving their moralistic values down my throat. But I guess that's just a typical teen huh?

[oz]

Originally posted by Sting
I just want to get away and be able to do my own thing

I know how you feel. Been there done that.
But the truth is you don't know how good you have it at home.
Free room and board, all you can eat, mom does the laundry. Car to drive, don't even have to put in gas. I can go on and on. You probably know that too even though you have to go by their rules.

[Fat Man]

Originally posted by Sting
I just want to get away and be able to do my own thing without my parenst shoving their moralistic values down my throat.

When you get away you'll find out that someone besides your parents are trying to shove their values down your throught. It's the human condition to try to impose your values on someone else. At least your parents are irritating the guano out of you because they love you.

Now I feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I guess I'll go test my Taser again.