Do you keep your love letters?

[Stephany]

Even after the relationship has ended, do you keep your old love letters?

[mrferrit]

yup and it has gotten me in trouble before too
good night all its bed time 330 am ehhhh nighty night

[Nina51]

never had any till i met gary. i used to find love notes in my checkbook, in a kitchen cupboard, under a towel in the closet, etc. i have every single one he ever wrote. some of them are on home depot receipts, some are on little scraps of paper, some are in birthday cards, etc. every one of them is a treasure i will keep forever. :)

[Hoggn]

Actually I have a suit case full from a past GF that was suppose to be my wife. Although it didn't work that way I still kept them... MAybe it is time to chuck them out...

[Saltz Creep]

No, I just keep videos ;)

[Sk8r]

I can't think of a reason to do so: a) it would be a downer to re-read if it ended on a down note b) reading them would only aggravate me if it turned nasty---although that might, on second thought, appeal to my comic sense or c) it's a bomb waiting to go off, having them turn up in a drawer. On the other hand, if it ended REALLY badly, a representative one might be worth framing and hanging on the refrigerator.

[Minuteman]

Why? Did you get caught or did you bust your SO?

[jpfelix]

they'd only get me in trouble!

[Gawain1974]

Well, I'll keep letters/cards while I'm dating the guy, but if we break up, he gets them all back, along with a dead bunny nailed to his door. ;)

[Toddrtrex]

So what kind of nail do you use for that?? ;)

[Gawain1974]

A dull, rusty one. ;)

(how you been, Todd?)

[Toddrtrex]

Oh a perfect touch.

Thanks for asking. Pretty good, finally healthy (well as healthy as a pack a day smoker can be ;) ) I moved out the the 'burbs a couple of months ago, was time to get out of the city. (plus other reasons ;) )

How about yourself? I should have said it earlier, but it is good to have you back.

[Stephany]

I have old love letters, but didn't get rid of them as I moved out of my parents house.

I just ended a three year relationship, and I'm torn about keeping things. She's hoping for friendship after a period of healing and I think it would be nice; but I had such a crush on her even when we were just friends...

It's kinda like... the letters don't do any good, but I would miss them if they were gone.
Isn't that how old people feel when they start collecting their daily papers?
eeek...

[Minuteman]

Best to just let it go and pitch em out. It's part of moving on...

[Sicklid]

Without my permission, my present wife threw away all of my old letters and pictures of girls whether they were friends or past lovers without telling me about it. They were in a box in the attic. I found out later when searching for high school reunion material.

[PoukieBear]

I threw out all of my old love letters...and It's killing me not to throw out all of Doug's letters and pictures too.

I see no reason to hang on to stuff like that.

[joeychitwood]

<a href=showthread.php?s=&postid=7586275#post7586275 target=_blank>Originally posted</a> by Stephany
She's hoping for friendship after a period of healing and I think it would be nice.... That is a nice sentiment designed to make her feel less guilt and you less pain, but it rarely happens. Move on.

And no, I've never kept any letter or cards. In fact, I've already thrown the Father's Day cards from yesterday.

[Minuteman]

<a href=showthread.php?s=&postid=7586566#post7586566 target=_blank>Originally posted</a> by Sicklid
Without my permission, my present wife threw away all of my old letters and pictures of girls whether they were friends or past lovers without telling me about it. They were in a box in the attic. I found out later when searching for high school reunion material.

So what's the rest of the story? Did she get her point across?

Holding on to old letters is nothing more than holding on to the old relationship. Why stress your wife/husband with it? either you are committed or you are not. My recommendation is to toss em out.

[Sicklid]

It's just her style. She also came home with a brand new Blazer, and I found out about it when she walked into the house. I would rather be consulted beforehand.

[Minuteman]

Yeah, the new Blazer thing I'd have had an issue with...

[Muttling]

<a href=showthread.php?s=&postid=7581302#post7581302 target=_blank>Originally posted</a> by mrferrit
yup and it has gotten me in trouble before too


True college story, two friends of mine started dating. About a year later, she found his stash of old love letters, cards, etc. He kept em all.


She was a bit flabbergasted when she noticed that some of them were signed by women and some by men.

[Minuteman]

So what'd she do?

[dc]

God no! Why? I do have a bunch of letters from a guy that was in Viet Nam, no love involved. Not sure why I have them still, just a dramatic period in my life I guess. He's still a close family friend. Been my cousin's best friend since childhood.

[crp]

I bury them with the body! :lol:

[Muttling]

<a href=showthread.php?s=&postid=7587062#post7587062 target=_blank>Originally posted</a> by lbrty9
So what'd she do?

She got over it and they stayed together for about a year or so after that.

Two years was actually a pretty long relationship for him. He preferred the "Tag and release program."

[dc]

<a href=showthread.php?s=&postid=7587088#post7587088 target=_blank>Originally posted</a> by crp
I bury them with the body! :lol:

Great idea! :lol: Not sure if Dan had any or not. I didn't see any and I didn't ask. Pretty low on my list of importance.

[oz]

I kept mine too along with photos, etc in an album.

Early in the marriage wife said she didn't care, it didn't matter to her, etc. (I think that really meant "get rid of it ASAP").

Anyway, wife has used this fact that I still keep them in some of our arguments.

[dc]

<a href=showthread.php?s=&postid=7587145#post7587145 target=_blank>Originally posted</a> by oz
Anyway, wife has used this fact that I still keep them in some of our arguments.

That's a clue!

[CrystalAZ]

I have mine and see no big deal in keeping them. It isn't like I look at them regularly but they are part of my past. And when I do read them and my old journals, it is hilarious to see how much I have changed over the years. :D

Crystal

[AdidaKev]

I only had one serious boyfriend before my current one and I threw away anything he'd given/written me. We ended on a really bad note (he was cheating on me) and I didn't want anything around that would remind me of what a liar he was.

[Stephany]

I can't believe its almost split evenly between yes and no.

Sudden Death!?!?

[HippieFish]

I think Todd still has the gum I spit out on our first date. :rolleyes:

[Toddrtrex]

But it was before you puked at the site of me ;)

[HippieFish]

You probably saved that too.

[Toddrtrex]

Maybe, maybe not.
But I do believe that it was Orbit's pepermint. ;)

[Stephany]

Now that's repulsive. lol :P

[der_wille_zur_macht]

Anyone else think this thread reminided them of that character on Coupling that has the room full of videos?