Behaviour Modification of a 2-year old

[dc]

From the highest tree...

[AJP]

Hush now all of you, back to the thread at hand. I agree with ricks earlier solution, and if you want I would be more than happy to send you some pepper spray. Or if he is real bad just show him this picture

[dc]

*As Adam moves to the top of the 'list'!*

[crzy4reefs]

you want to teach him a lesson not get the crap scared outa him



j/k

[Hoggn]

Mac,

Don't sweat the little things in life. He is 2! I agree with the wife, ignore him, if you make it a issue so will he.

Sounds like my youngest son and yours should team up and rule the world. I swear he is the spawn of SATAN!

Good luck with the dog issue! Just going to have to keep an eye on both.

[ReeferMac]

Originally posted by kgallich
Don't sweat the little things in life. He is 2!

I know, that's what she says... But still, it's the self-esteem thing... He's hitting himself in the head? That can't be good, can it? He tells us sometimes later "eye hurts", and we tell him that's because he hits himself, whereby naturally, he then proceeds to bite his knuckle...
Sigh....

My parents however, are enjoying my stress over it, immensely.

- Mac

[dc]

Originally posted by ReeferMac

My parents however, are enjoying my stress over it, immensely.

- Mac

I think parents consider it a payload, wait until he's a teenager! You'll be wishing he was 2 again.

[FCM]

Don't worry about his self-esteem- at 2 they think the world revolves around them as it is, probably wouldn't be a bad thing if he takes himself down a few pegs.lol

But seriously, look at it this way- he has no one to blame for his sore eye or bloody lip but himself. I would think his self-esteem would be more negatively impacted if he was being picked on by another kid and he felt unable to defend himself or stop the bullying. Eventually he'll realize it's foolish to hit himself and stop.

[sunamoon]

I have a very active 2 yr old grandaughter. She has a mean streak a mile wide! But the next second she is sweet as pie! So we have discovered using the "naughty chair" When she acts out with meaness or anger- kicking, screamin back at us, hitting whatver is close by.. We send her to this chair. for 2 minutes. 1 minute for every year of the childs age.

Its basically a time out type of thing with one big difference. The word "Naughty Chair" seem to work some kind of magic! lol or at least it has with kaity.

the deal is that they cannot be in a place they want to be at. The naughty chair has to be placed somewhere boring away from the tv, toys an such as that. But still where you can keep an eye on the child.

I placed a small stool in my hallway for when she's here. There is nothing to see in the hallway. its away from all the activity of the family, but i can still see her every move. They do not have to be quiet in the naughty chair nor do they have to be perfectly still, but they have to stay seated or get another minute in the chair.
I have been amazed at how well this has worked for her. she is learning to control that temper of hers at even 2.

If i see her temper starting to flare, (and belive me you can see it!) I simply ask her do you need to go to the naughty chair? She calms down so fast its hilarious. No granny! Of course sometimes her mother and i don't see it and she gets in trouble, Usually we hear her 5 yr old brother scream from some hit he's taken.. lol . Luckily he understands that hitting is wrong and she is still technically a baby. he takes a lot from her before he really gets her back.

As far as him hitting himself. I would say its a phase. But i'd be watchful of how hard he is hitting his head on things. And no child should ever be told they are stupid an have them tell themselves that. If one hears something often enough, they believe it.

Good Luck

[Sierra]

Originally posted by BrianD
Profanity censor + ignore = bannation

it was a typo - not ignoring your rules oh mighty ban man.

[BrianD]

Originally posted by Sierra
it was a typo - not ignoring your rules oh mighty ban man.

#1 - The message wasn't directed at you.
#2 - Don't push it.

[dc]

Originally posted by Sierra
it was a typo -

That's what they all say!

[VoidRaven]

In regards to his behavior towards the dog, you may want to try to make a BIG deal (lots and lots of praise) when ever he is treating the dog nicely. Especially if you can catch him doing it when he does not know you are around. If that is possible with a 2 year old. This will work the other way around too, if he hits the dog and she does not react (growl, ears, teeth etc.) give her a treat or lots of praise. She sounds like a good dog but that she is being picked on.

[Sierra]

Move me on - I did nothing wrong - you are always right Brian.

[BrianD]

Originally posted by Sierra
Move me on - I did nothing wrong - you are always right Brian.

If doing "nothing wrong" includes a sarcastic rebuttal complete with to a comment not directed to you, I suppose you could conclude you did "nothing wrong". However, my opinion differs.

you are always right Brian

Correct.

[Raki04]

OK I raised two of my own and was a Preschool teacher for three years. I worked for a year and a half with this age group.
First let me tell you not to under estimate how much Jr. understands at this age. He may not yet be able to express himself verbally that well but he understands almost everything you tell him. I would ask him why he is hurting himself and help him with the words to express his thoughts if necessary . Yes this does sound as if he's using it to handle stress , or he may be using it as an attention getter too . He could feel that he is competing with what ever has you attention at that time .Or he also could be "copying" Daddy and dishing out discipline of his own but since he cannot hit or bite anyone else he does to himself.
I would explain to him why it isn't a good idea to hit himself. Do it at a time when things are calm and the act hasn't recently occurred and then reinforce what you told him when he does do it again.
Lastly don't fret over it too much he most likely will stop on his own anyway. And I very much doubt he will hit or bite himself hard enough to do and real harm.

[Sierra]

I've had enough run ins with you at this point. Enjoy your almighty power, I've enjoyed enough of it.

[BrianD]

Sierra, you have PM.

[AJP]

There is nothing to see here, move along.

[AJP]

Just look at my pen.

[AJP]

These arent the droids you're looking for

[CrystalAZ]

There is nothing to see here, move along.

LOL. Glad to see you doing your coply duties.

Back on topic, my nephew is 5 and he hits himself all the time, while saying "Stupid, stupid". He gets a good reaction from other kids, so he enjoys it. He also likes to call himself "retarded" and say "I'm an idiot".

We used to say "Don't say that, no you aren't." but it just made him laugh harder. So we ignore it.

Hopefully he'll get over it soon.

Crystal

[dc]

Originally posted by CrystalAZ
LOL. Glad to see you doing your coply duties.

Back on topic, my nephew is 5 and he hits himself all the time, while saying "Stupid, stupid". He gets a good reaction from other kids, so he enjoys it. He also likes to call himself "retarded" and say "I'm an idiot".

We used to say "Don't say that, no you aren't." but it just made him laugh harder. So we ignore it.

Hopefully he'll get over it soon.

Crystal

No fair posting on topic! My friends's Grandson would hold his breath until he passed out. That was pretty scary, then all of a sudden he quit!

[CrystalAZ]

No fair posting on topic!

I think it this case, it was a necessary move.



Crystal

[dc]

Originally posted by CrystalAZ
I think it this case, it was a necessary move.



Crystal

Perhaps.