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12/13/2007, 07:04 AM
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where will i go??
so far, since gary's death, i have had 3 people ask me this question. i don't understand. this is my home. gary and i lived here for 10 of our 11 years. there's 20 acres here, owned by gary's family, free and clear. when we picked out our 5 acres and plopped our house down we both agreed, our next move would be over the hill to the bloomfield cemetery. unfortunately, that move came much sooner for gary than we had anticipated. but, i'm in pretty good shape. i mean, as far as i know, my health is fine. i'm 56 years old shutupjpfelix. why would i move??
when gary got sick, every member of his family made it a point to tell me that, even though we were never married and my name isn't on the deed, they wanted me to stay here. i told them, it never would have occurred to me to have it any other way. this is my home! this is where gary and i lived and loved and made precious memories. i ran into an old friend just yesterday. i had not seen her since long before gary's death. she hugged me and told me how sorry she was. the next thing out of her mouth was "where will you GO???" i said well, right now i'm going to the bathroom and then i'm heading back to work.  i just walked away. stoooopid people.
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12/13/2007, 07:07 AM
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Ummm, that is kind of stoopid. Why the heck would you want to leave after all the work you both put into that place. Is there a rule written somewhere I've never heard about?
"Going to the bathroom and back to work"  I would have loved to see her face.
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12/13/2007, 07:38 AM
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after you go to the bathroom, you go could make me a sammich!
don't forget yo wash yer paws! thanks toots!
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12/13/2007, 07:44 AM
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X2 And I'd like a nice cold beer with my sammich. Shake a leg there darlin'.
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12/13/2007, 08:13 AM
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 My best friend just died. leaveing behind his 5 yr old boy and fiance. they were together 8 years. just like me and my boyfriend. his parents took care of the funeral and stuff... and paid for the lil boys education for life at catholic school.. but thats it anything that she sells that were in her fiances name has to go right into the boys trust fund by law (because he had no will and haddent married her) she had 30 days to get out of the house because they were renting and basicly living month to month. she moved in with her mom. but shes almost 30. and crushed by the stress right now. Nina give nana a hug  and im so glad you all take care of eachother.I havent commented at all. Im newish to the lounge. And Im having a hard time thinking about death these past few weeks But your in my thoughts now im balling my eyes out.. agian
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12/13/2007, 08:18 AM
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but you are coming to Atlanta next september, right Nina? TOURKID too.
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12/13/2007, 09:37 AM
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Re: where will i go??
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12/13/2007, 09:43 AM
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I agree that any one who knows you should know better. But about 3 years ago I lost a very good family friend to a freek accident in Sturgis. Todd and Barb had remodeled their entire house. Barb could not walk into that house after Todd died. If I remember correctly, the house was up on the market right after the funeral. For her the memories were much too painful. She never knew that Todd's brother, Kent, kept the Harley and fixed it up.
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12/13/2007, 10:11 AM
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It's just in people's nature to worry Nina. You've been so strong, a lot of people probably don't even know that you have been taking care of things by youself around the house and property for the past couple of years. Your probably going to have to let a lot of things bounce of you and remember that Gary is up there laughing a long with you.
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12/13/2007, 10:15 AM
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carrie, i'm gonna hurt you big time.
english, unbeknownst to me, when we first discussed bringing gary "home" to die, his family had a pow wow and decided that it would be in MY best interest to set up the hospital bed at nana's rather than in our home. they all felt that had gary died in our house, it would have been much harder on me. i just don't know. i do know that i have been unable to bring his recliner home. the thought of walking into our house and seeing that big chair sitting empty would, i am sure, reduce me to tears instantly. i'm not sure i will ever be able to bring it home but i do curl up in it when i go visit nana.
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12/13/2007, 10:59 AM
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porter... I doubt it. I travel all summer long around the country going to music festivals and selling my t shirts. maybe if I convinced macna they needed glowing shirts eh?
but septembers our last good month.. oh, yeah.. and my bf really hates my hobbie so that might make it difficult lol
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12/13/2007, 11:14 AM
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THank goodness for Nana and a strong family sense of honor. The family that brought up Gary is a lot of good people, and it's an added warm hug when an extended family holds together and embraces its own. I have seen situations go otherwise. For sure, you have got a good situation there, Nina, and I'm sure they're glad of you, too.
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12/13/2007, 11:21 AM
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WOW, now that's a question that never even entered my mind...where will you go?
It never even entered my mind...what will you do...? Life will go on....you'll still do what you have done....minus Gary..that's they way I thought of it Unless of course you decide to move to the islands & chase cabana boys |
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12/13/2007, 11:21 AM
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by dkh0331 X2 And I'd like a nice cold beer with my sammich. Shake a leg there darlin'. HELLLOOOOOO????????????
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12/13/2007, 11:30 AM
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you can keep the sammich, but I will take 2 beers.
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12/13/2007, 11:45 AM
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by dkh0331
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12/13/2007, 11:58 AM
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12/13/2007, 12:11 PM
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you are only partially correct, davemysweet. i am not minus gary. gary is very much with me. if he were not, that big tree that fell when i was burning trash would have smushed me instead of missing me by 3 feet... the tree limbs that hung precariously in the lines would have come crashing down and quite possibly injured my horses instead of hanging up there till the electric company could get there with chain saws... the water pump would have frozen instead of staying JUST warm enough so that once electricity was restored, we had running water instead of looking at a 3 day ordeal of replacing the pump... i'm sure if i think about it, there are numerous other reasons why i know gary is looking out for me, nana and everybody else on the ridge.
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